Different and Happy?

Enjoy being Different?

Have you ever been considered the odd ball out? Maybe you have been overlooked on more than one occasion. Did you notice people tend to avoid you or forget to ask you to events? If you have answered yes to any of these please continue reading.

Many times, we have been called different, unique, or even “special” by people or groups we did not “fit into”. It was hurtful, and maybe embarrassing at some point. Understand this you were not meant to conform in the shape of others, GOD made you different for a reason. You have—purpose! The times you have been overlooked and talked about was because you were not meant to be a part of the “In Crowd”, you were meant to be a part of the “Kingdom Crowd”!

Yes, you are different! Yes, you choose not to use profanity! Yes, you choose to stop drinking alcohol and smoking! Yes, you choose not to go to night clubs or bars! And yes, you chose to stop fornicating and gossiping with family and coworkers! The choice you chose to make, now makes you an outsider. You are looked upon as different, and its ok!

Now that you are set apart from the “worldly folk”. KJV John 17:16 “they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world”.  If some of you are wondering what “worldly folk” is it is a term used to describe a group of people who choose to love and live like the world. NKJV 1st John 2:15-16 “do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but of the world.

It is ok that you are different because—GOD has set you apart! Do you know what is means to be set apart? Once you have the understanding that you will never fit in, it will be easier for you to let go of yourself, and let GOD have his way!

Being set apart is another word for Sanctification. Did you know in the KJV the word sanctify is mentioned 58 times, the word sanctify is mentioned 65 times, and the word sanctification is mentioned 5 times? (Bible Gateway was used to research the findings of the word sanctify.) According to Meriam-Webster Dictionary, the word sanctify means “to set apart to a sacred purpose or to religious use. To make productive of holiness or piety. The fact that the word is mentioned many times in the Bible reveals the importance of sanctification and being set apart. KJV 2nd Thessalonians 2:13 “but we are bound to give thanks alway to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth. KJV John 17: 17 “sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.”

There are many scriptures in the Bible including Old Testament and New Testament that can be used as a foundation to understand why you are different, and why it is good to be set apart from everyone else! Your purpose is dependent on you walking in your uniqueness! There is a reason you do not fit in, and the reason is you are—SET APART!

Shine Bright in Your Purpose”—CS

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The other day on the ride home, I started to think about the difference between feeling lonely and being alone. Before I began to pick apart the two, let me give you a brief definition of the words. According to Merriam-Webster alone is the separation from others (adverb). Lonely is producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation (adjective).

There are some people who are alone by choice. Throughout the years, I have noticed that being alone has been viewed negatively. I too used to think of being alone as something negative. Because of that perspective, I thought I had to have people around me at all times. I believed that I needed people around me to give me joy, and to be embraced by “loved” ones. Man, I was wrong. The truth is I can get more accomplished, and I am more productive by being alone. There comes a time in your life that you enjoy being alone and free from distractions. Being alone, may force you to discover your GOD given talents and discover your purpose.

In my opinion, feeling lonely can be problematic. Why you ask? Feeling lonely is feeling desolate and separated from others, and maybe not by choice. Their have been times when I was not alone, and surrounded by close family, and friends and I felt lonely. It was an illusion that I would portray in the presence of others. Unfortunately, I displayed a facade, and only persons extremely close would notice my discomfort. The fact that I was surrounded by love ones, and I still felt lonely was an issue. Why did I feel so secluded in the presence of people? The first reason I felt that way was because I was transforming from my old self . The second reason, I felt that way was directly connected to my desperation for GOD to heal me. I can remember times when I felt out of place, yet still trying to blend in. Feeling lonely can produce poor outcomes at times. Some people who get stuck “feeling lonely” need a healthy support system. When a person is feeling alone, and does not have the healthiest support system can quickly become depressed, and become withdrawn. Feeling lonely should not be something that is ignored, an immediate response should take place to identify what makes a person feel lonely. After the “why” has been identified, then activation of taking action to confront “it” needs to happen. Being surrounded by people, who can speak positive and encouraging affirmations is such an asset when crawling out of a dark hole.

Remember: Always have a dialogue to determine if being alone is for healthy or unhealthy reasons, and if feeling lonely is caused by being judged, used, or misunderstood, and respond accordingly.

The Continuation Of Growth

I remember when I started this blog as a way to heal, through the loss of my grandmother. I have not been posting in awhile due to starting a blog on instagram and facebook, and I just started a small business in November. It has been overwhelming to keep up with everything. It was a way to encourage me through the stages of grief. If you are familiar with the stages of grief according to Kubeler-Ross are : denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Before my grandmother died, my mom and I went to her house when she was still semi-alert and aware of her surroundings. I remember holding my grandmothers hand, and praying to God about her well being. I knew in my heart that she would not be on this earth much longer, but I also knew it would still be painful to watch her leave.

While holding her hand, I could literally feel an unexplainable gust of air go through my hands and throughout my body. I am not sure if that was her spirit or soul leaving the earth at that time, or the move of God speaking to her through me and acknowledging that my prayers were heard. Either way, I knew it had to be something Celestial that took place, and I was almost at peace with her transition. The next day or two my mom had an appointment with her doctor, so I picked her up, and went back to sit with my grandmother and some family. During that time we had to reposition her due to her having a moment of incontinence. After repositioning her, I knew then that she would not make it to the end of the day. Feeling guilty, I could not help but wonder if I added to the limited time.

Throughout my life, I have seen people on their deathbeds. I have cared for, bathed, fed, and repositioned many people in the past, so to know that any additional movement may speed up the process of death made me sad. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s almost like if you move a person a certain way or put too much additional stress on them it causes their body to decline even faster. This is my theory anyways I have heard other people say the same thing, but I am not sure if it is medically proven. However, I do know that most time the only type of care you are to give people is what they like to call “comfort measures”. Simply stated making sure they are comfortable, but again even being in healthcare, it is different when it is a loved one. It takes you to a different place, a place where you want to rescue them from their pain, and save them from dying.

I finally realized that I was operating in the stages of denial, and guilt. I recently drove by her living quarters after about 2yrs of not being able to drive on the street and admitting to myself that she is no longer there. I still have her phone number programmed into my phone, as if one day she is going to call me, and say she has a doctor appointment (LOL). I very rarely visit the grave where she is buried, but I do think about her at times.

Guilt stage: I am finally free from guilt. I used to feel like I was not present in her life enough, or that last Thanksgiving Dinner, she was heartbroken because many of us did not show up to greet her as we usually would. I wondered if she felt like no one cared about her anymore, and decided to give up. I too understand that the aging population goes through depression, and the stages of grief or dying as everyone else. As I look back over the last year of her life, I remembered the different phases manifesting throughout her final months. I did not realize what was going on at the time, but now I get it. To think I did something to harm her, was sickening. I got delivered from the spirit of Guilt, and Shame, and recognizing that we have no control when we come and go is and will always be a mystery. No matter what I would have done or did not do, she was going to die anyway.

In closing, I would like to encourage anyone that may have or are experiencing any of these issues, it is natural to go through them. Unfortunately, it is not natural that you get stuck in a stage, and never move forward. In the event that happens, I will recommend you seeking spiritual or professional therapy for your healing. In my experience I sought spiritual healing. I am free to release her and my grandpa by writing.

I love writing but sometimes life gets overwhelming and attempts to take control. To anyone who took the time to read this very lengthy Blog. Thank you in advance, but it was for me to continue to heal in my journey. If you would like shorter versions and inspirational messages you can Check out my Instagram @beyoubehealedblog or Facebook @beyoubehealed.

Charcoal Facial Mask

Last night as I washed the Charcoal Facial Mask off I began to think. I immediately began to go into praise and worship, and giving GOD honor. As I washed the excess off the first time, it was not completely removed from my face. The second, and third time it finally was removed, and I also used a washcloth to removed the residue.

Throughout that process of cleansing my face, I could not help but associate me cleansing my face with GOD cleansing my Spirit. I know alot of people may not recognize the similarity, but GOD cleans us up in layers if we are willing, and open for change.

In my experience, I wanted GOD to cleanse me of all my sins, but I also wanted to hold onto the ones that made me feel good. Had I known that was out of order, I would have fully surrendered myself to GOD the first time. There is no way you can be holding on to Sin and GOD at the same time, eventually you will release one and gravitate towards the other. Nevertheless I was stripped the first time of what I was dealing with at the time, but as I stated I still was attempting to hold onto a piece of SIN (LOL) foolery at its best.

Unfortunately, SIN eventually had a tight grip on me, and I was willfully participating in ungodly things. Things that were not of GOD. Example it was almost like I was knee deeper than I was before. Then I asked GOD to forgive me, and I thought I repented, but did not get delivered from the spirit of lust, fornication etc.. This crazy spiral of events lasted about 3-4 years before I finally suffered enough of heartache, pain, betrayals, and feeling worthless at times.

The third time GOD washed me, and cleaned me up with the Blood of Jesus, and I was able to let my Spirit man function at the capacity he needed to be. The feeling of having GOD completely deal with me layer by layer was not easy, and it did not feel good. The reason why it did not feel good is because the Lord began to show and reveal to me areas of my life that I have tried to hide, and never got healing from. To have these areas resurface was issues I needed to deal with, and get free from. The times I did not want the Lord to show me some hidden area in my life, I got revelation on it anyways. The other hard part was separting myself from people and places that will be a diservice to my healing and salvation. It was tough, but necessary. I knew that I had to get cleansed and delivered this 3rd time around because it began to affect my son, and refuse to allow any generational curse or attack to trickle down to my son because of something I did or a door I opened. Not only that I was experiencing the worst attack I have ever been through in my life. According to the scripture Matthew 12:43-45 When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. 44 Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. 45 Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first. So shall it also be with this wicked generation.” I know my state was a direct response to me being delivered, and repenting, but not being intentional about reading the word, and praying. The fact that I had all the tools I needed to stay free, but did not use them was foolish.

Needless to say, GOD had to cleanse me, and wash me as many times that were needed in order for me to be truly set free. The submission and obedience we give GOD is priceless.

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